New Mother or New Father Ceremony
Becoming a parent is certainly one of the most important moments of our lives and deserves acknowledgement, tradition, and community. This ceremony can be for a mother or a father. I recommend keeping them separate as the time when a baby is born is such a different experience for the mother as for the father and the wisdom of our own gender can be helpful in navigating this time. I will use the term “Father’s Ceremony” in the following description for simplicity, but again this can apply to either gender.
A New Father’s Ceremony happens fairly soon after the birth or adoption of the baby, anywhere from two days to two weeks after the baby is born depending on the mother’s preference. Therefore in some ways the ceremony will be very honest and causal, but also graceful and powerful — with a community of men coming together to acknowledge the man’s passage into fatherhood, to comfort, strengthen, and celebrate with him. This can happen through honest sharing and listening, through music, through symbolic gifts, etc.
I will meet with the father at least once during the pregnancy to discuss who he would like to have at the New Father’s Ceremony. I will then meet with his community of men and guide them through how to share a New Father’s Ceremony with sacredness and honesty. I will be present for the ceremony to host and gently facilitate as needed. The ceremony will be anywhere from 20 minutes to two hours according to the family’s needs. The wife or partner of the new mother and any children that are part of the immediate family are also invited to attend.
Art of Surrender Doula Services
Ashley Wright, Postpartum Doula
St. Louis, Missouri
respectful. holistic. compassionate.